Regina Carey is a coach, public speaker and special educator who works to help drive change within the veterinary and human healthcare professions. But in this interview we focus on another aspect of her life: she’s married to a veterinarian, and therefore, by default, married to the veterinary profession.
In this episode we explore what’s that like to be the significant other in the life of a vet, what it takes to support a vet career, and what our partners want us to know. Regina gives us the solution to making space in a relationship for two careers, especially when one of the careers can be particularly time and commitment hungry!
We also pick Regina’s coach brain with topics like invisible disabilities, the not-so obvious things that get in the way of becoming the best version of ourselves, like excessive competitiveness, the consequences of the language we use with ourselves, and how to draw a hard line with aggressive clients. But first, we start with a veterinary love story…
04:22 Regina’s experience being married to a vet.
12:53 You don’t need to sacrifice everything to be a vet.
16:31 Making space for two careers in a relationship.
24:09 Regina’s career before she delved into vet stuff.
28:15 Coaching people with invisible disabilities.
35:24 The link between competitiveness and a lack of self esteem.
40:08 Why are supportive relationships vital in the vet industry?
46:18 Holding space for a relationship or your partner as a vet.
48:15 How do you find the support systems?
51:48 How to disallow disrespect without being rude.
58:46 Regina’s advice for the significant others of a vet.
62:25 Things that makes the vet industry uniquely challenging to a coach.
65:18 “How do you solve the gap between vets wanting more money for less work?”
70:27 Regina’s favourite podcasts.
71:38 Regina’s advice to new grad vets.
Book – Burnout by the Nagoski Sisters
Podcast – We can do hard things with Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach
Podcast – The Hidden Brain an NPR podcast
“Because my husband has all those letters behind his name, I have been afraid to make more money than he makes.”
“I’m amazed at the amount of negative self-talk that practitioners still have about themselves.”
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